I’ve often said that love is a conscious decision you make; to be “in love” and to learn to love someone are processes. It is true you can never love some people or places, while some others are far more amenable to kickstarting warm feelings within you. But contrary to what glossy romantic films or books might try to condition you into thinking, love is not something that “just happens”. You’re not a passive observer, swept off your feet. The head over heels thing may happen for a minute, for a day, but you would ultimately snap out of the chimera and come to your senses. You then evaluate and make choices. You might play a game with yourself – check if you feel the same funny, fuzzy way after a while, in several moods, in different seasons. See if you are tempted to change your mind. See if you are trying to convince yourself to stick to your resolve. It does not essentially mean that the lane you picked is bad or that it is bound to be fraught with difficulties. It may hint – o