I’ve often said
that love is a conscious decision you make; to be “in love” and to learn to
love someone are processes. It is true you can never love some people or
places, while some others are far more amenable to kickstarting warm feelings
within you. But contrary to what glossy romantic films or books might try to
condition you into thinking, love is not something that “just happens”. You’re
not a passive observer, swept off your feet. The head over heels thing may
happen for a minute, for a day, but you would ultimately snap out of the
chimera and come to your senses.
You then
evaluate and make choices. You might play a game with yourself – check if you
feel the same funny, fuzzy way after a while, in several moods, in different
seasons. See if you are tempted to change your mind. See if you are trying to
convince yourself to stick to your resolve. It does not essentially mean that
the lane you picked is bad or that it is bound to be fraught with difficulties.
It may hint – or hit you on the head – that you need to examine your logic or
your emotions, whichever your thought process is governed by. You may want to
stick to your comfort zone and clutch at it for dear life – but it’s worth
thinking over, talking over, or even retract from.
Retract in mind,
or in action. Be honest. I found something interesting on Huffington Post, and here
it is.
Thinking things
over makes you a deeper personality. Better awareness of self can pave the way
for higher self-satisfaction and a more realistic world-view. Do not kiss your “self”
goodbye because of any one decision you made. For,
Our first and last love is self-love.
Christian Nestell Bovee
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